I was recently talking with Doc about my 20/20 Hindsight series [Note: this was a series on my older site]. During the conversation we began discussing the top three kissers I’ve had. (I’m sure triggered by my comment: The kiss, it was definitely a top three kiss.) She said she had an interesting speculation about the top three.
She speculated that not only where these three people great kissers but they also were three individuals I still spoke with. Her speculation was off base. I only talk to two of the top three kissers. Although, if I could, I’d talk to the other top three. I was thinking about the relationship and all three women are people that I’ve opened up with and been honest and transparent with. (I didn’t share that tidbit with Doc.)
Later in the conversation, we came to a theory of why some people are great kissers. Her thought, and I tend to agree, was a person I perceive as a great kisser likely has a sense of genuineness in the kiss. That the kisser is a transparent and honest person. Thus the kiss is real and passionate versus a forced kiss out of obligation. Interestingly enough, my top three kissers are also the most honest, transparent and moral people I’ve ever kissed.
Perhaps the phenomenon is a matter of romanticizing the individual and their memory. I haven’t kissed any of the top three in almost two years. Yet, I either talk to them or am holding onto a sliver of the relationship. I’m not sure which is the correct theory. They both seem to make sense to me at some level.